As strong as you think you are – as far as your pride will carry you – you can’t always do it alone. And you don’t have to! Someone that loves you, constructively criticizes you, respects you, and tells you the truth will help you push past the point of giving up.
“I love to see a young girl go out and grab the world by the lapels. Life’s a bitch. You’ve got to go out and kick ass.” Maya Angelou
You’ve tried it; changing your eating habits, buying healthier grocery items, or packing your lunch for work. Where do you end up? It was exciting for a while but you got tired of meal planning and prepping. The rest of your family wouldn’t eat what you were cooking so it was easier for you to resort back to what they eat. That lunch you packed for work was good enough until your co-worker talked you in to getting out the office and head to the local hot spot instead. You are back to square one. The battle cannot be won if you are not surrounded by like-minded people. I’m not saying everyone must think like you but I am saying you need a “go to” person who respects your health goals.
Same thing with exercise. It was a great idea to get that gym membership, but you only used it for a week because you never felt comfortable. You signed up for a 30 day online fitness bootcamp, but you kept missing days and having to start over from day one. You ordered P90X and it was kickass at first but laundry, ringing phone, text messages, dinner, kids, etc. kept distracting you. Where is your accountability? Where is your support system?
To find a staunch support system, you must communicate your needs with others. It takes work.
First, explain your goals, health needs, and journey to get there with your spouse or significant other. They may have been on your same wave but afraid to approach you, but maybe not. If not, you can’t lose sight of your what and why. Just ask them to support you and inform them of the importance this decision is for you and please respect it. Give it time, they may conform as well.
Find an accountable friend to encourage and help you stay on track. There is nothing like the fear of letting someone down. If your friend expects you to meet them at the gym or the track, you will be there.
Find your cheerleader. I never dreamed I would say this, but if social media drives you… USE IT. Just please don’t value your worth with it. If you need people to say, “Good Job” or “Keep it up” or “You’re looking great” or “Your efforts motivate me”, then more power to you. GET IT! If it keeps you working out tomorrow, then post that shit and look forward to tomorrows workout.
Connect with others who are focused on improving their health in the same way you are. If you want to lose weight and your friend wants to bulk up, you are probably not going to enjoy going to the gym with them or having dinner. It doesn’t have to be someone you knew previously. It could be someone you met in a fitness class and the gym is your common. That’s ok too. You don’t have to be besties with everyone. You just need that quick text from someone that says, “you coming to class today? I need a good ass kicking workout after my day of work. Need me to save you a spot?” You’ll be less apt to skip the gym that day.
Common sense goals. It’s just that simple. Eat right and exercise with others. Make the most of your efforts and have fun.
In my life, I have two incredible workout partners. These girls are my heartbeat in the gym, on a bike, on the pavement, in the kitchen, and in my fitness life in general. I could not make some days without them. There is not a day that goes by that we do not share our goals, our workouts, our nutrition, what we ate or will eat, and what time we will meet on the weekends. The three of us have a respect for accountability. Kathryn and Jennifer are straight up legit. There is no doubt if one of us says, “I think I’m going to train for a marathon”, the other two will say, “Cool, I’ll train with you.” Don’t let our friendship fool you, we are ruthless as well. We will drop one another on a run. We toe the line at every race with a win in mind against the other two. We workout harder and push limits at all WODS in 3. 2. 1. At the end of the day, we are better today than we were yesterday and ready for tomorrow. Katty and Jenn, I love your passion, drive, constant motivation and STRONG SUPPORT.
My strongest support comes from home. My hubs has never stepped in the way of me and my eager, hard-headed, rampant, addictive, love for living a healthy lifestyle. He will be the first to tell you that I am hell to live with when I miss a day. Kuddos for his patience and love, I am appreciative. I can’t forget my kids. They watch! They learn! They mimic! That is so important to me. How else do you teach but by example?
You enjoy exercise more when it’s a partner or maybe even a personal trainer. You can disassociate boredom with fun. Not to mention, it makes the time go by faster.
Strength comes in numbers.
The Group Effort – I love my large groups. They complain. They curse. They work hard. They feed off each other. They constantly push one another. We are social animals. We seek company and positive reinforcement of others, especially when we do work. Fitness is work.
One on One – Having one on ones have advantages as well. I am an appointment. You will be pushed just as much and expectations are no less. I’m never afraid to sweat with a client. If it takes me doing your programming alongside you – LET’s DO IT!
The Dynamic Duos – The friends that want to work out together or the married couples who use it as together time. This is a buddy system. They respect one another’s time, goals, and they stay in touch. It’s a win win.
No matter where you fit in, find your support. Be that insurance policy for someone (and yourself). Your path can be a light for someone else.
“Whenever I feel weak, I’ll remember those who make me strong. And whenever I start to doubt myself, I’ll remember those who believe in me.”
BE THAT PERSON
STRONG – Mitzi