What do you value?
Stop here and think about that. Write down 5, your top 5.
The definition of value is to regard that something is held to deserve; the importance, worth, or usefulness of something.
Look at your top 5 again. Do you see your name? Where do you fit in? Try to explain why your name is not top 5 without making tons of excuses.
A value is a judgement of what is important in your life.
If you, yourself, do not rank in your life, how do you honestly value everything else.
You are letting yourself drift and allowing life to control you. Life is too short and you are your own destiny.
Money! This makes me crazy. Many people think value is a price tag. You are not worthy or valued because you have a bigger bank account than someone else. I promise you there is no amount of money that can make you love yourself. You know the saying “money can’t buy happiness”. It can’t but it sure can buy a beautiful portrait. I hope that picture is worth more than you paid for it.
Social Media! Since when did a “like” button become a value to people? If that is the true value of your life, you need to delete the app. Kids and adults alike are relying on a click of a heart, a like, or a response to feed their core. That is a scary thought. Ask yourself why do you care?
I never thought about what I valued either. A year ago, I was accepted to go on an ACTS retreat. ACTS stand for Adoration, Community, Theology, and Service. I did not want to go, this was no secret. The first morning of this Catholic retreat, after mass, we spoke about values. The question was asked, what do you value? Everyone had that staple answer, God, family, kids, education, job, a roof over my head, food to eat, etc. I chose not to answer as the topic was discussed around the table. As the conversation died down and I thought I was free and clear of this subject, our table leader directly asked me that question again. Nothing prepared me for that. I did not have an answer to give her. I simply put my head in my hands and cried harder than I can remember crying in years. It was almost like everything I valued was equal to everyone else. That was not good enough for me. As the weekend progressed, that question weighed heavily on me. I continued to search for the “right” answer. Sunday morning I was getting dressed for mass and it hit me. It wasn’t what I did value, it was what I did not value that I needed to answer. I did not value ME.
During this ACTS weekend, I started out being me. Those of you who know me, know I don’t break easily and I don’t enjoy showing my feelings much. There are few people I trust.
As I sat amongst strangers, I peeled back like an onion. These people started seeing the real me. The girl I didn’t value. I went back to my room later that day and there was a note on my bed. It read, “when you sat down at the table, you looked so strong and intimidating to me, but you’re really very squishy inside.” She was right.
When you spread yourself too thin, you become hidden. This blog was everyone else’s dream for me. I didn’t believe enough in the value of my voice to do it. When I decided to jump, I decided what I had to say mattered to someone and that I had a story to tell.
I began valuing my gift of helping and motivating others at a new level. It was time to share with the world and I couldn’t be more proud.
Your question. How do I get there? How do I begin to value me again? My body, my health, my nutrition, my exercise program, my one on one time with me, my thoughts, my actions…
You must get a plan of action. Set guidelines in your everyday activities.
Time for a healthier you. I tell me clients all the time, I am the last appointment you should cancel. You don’t cancel a doctor’s appointment because the cable man is coming. Your trainer or gym session is an appointment. This is fact, exercise at any level is beneficial to you in the present and the future. But, but, but… I have, I can’t, I’m too old, my knees hurt… BLAH BLAH BLAH!!!! Just stop, please stop.
Here are a few reasons why I find you should value yourself and your health.
- Lifestyle diseases: High pressure, cholesterol, arthritis, diabetes, obesity, autoimmune deficiencies, leaky gut, and more can be controlled by your diet and exercise.
- Healthy Mind: Blog #2 goes in detail how I feel about this
- Stress Management: A sane ritual of exercise regimen can reduce stress. Exercise produces endorphins that act as natural pain killers in the brain.
- Sound Body: Refer to blog #3. I did not hide my feelings on this subject.
- Shapes Personality: You leave lazy alone. Meet the new you and feel different. Be consistent. People will like to be around you. You may make a new friend.
- Model Behavior: People will notice the new you and want to know your secret. What a great feeling that is! More importantly, your children and your family will notice and begin to mimic your lifestyle change.
- Confidence and Self-esteem
Love yourself. Value yourself. Quit depending on someone or something else to make you happy.
You can’t just sit there and want things to happen. It doesn’t work that way. Where has that gotten you so far? You haven’t budged. People say “I have faith that God will handle it.” I have faith too, lots of it. The football team can have faith that they will win the game, but if they don’t take the field, their chances are not in their favor. You must play the game of life to win your life. Be a savage, stop crying over it and work to fix it.
Morals and values are different. I say this because people tend to confuse the two. A moral is a standard of behavior that is either right or wrong. Morals are based on the belief and understanding of your values.
As you sit here reading this, struggling with what you value or what you don’t, I leave you with this…
I heard my body is a topic of conversation so I wanted to say, I’m proud of my body and you should be proud of yours too. No matter who you are or what you do. I could give you a million reasons why you don’t need to cater to anyone or anything to succeed. Be you, and be relentlessly you. That’s the stuff of champions. LADY GAGA