STRONG DISCIPLINE

Strong Discipline

I just ate a chocolate chip cookie, 2 exactly. Real ones, not paleo, no regrets!

We just talked about getting “CRAP” out of your system and now I’m throwing how to stay disciplined, as I am eating cookies.

What the hell is happening?

I have said it before, people have good intentions. They truly want change but they (you) lack self-discipline. Plain and simple, you cannot say no. The taste of food is far more important that the results you crave.

It is so easy for me to tell you to “just say no”, or “walk away”, or “quit stepping in places where temptations lie the most”. It’s not easy, I get it. I’m real and I struggle too. Somehow, I have programmed my mind to not touch it if it’s not worth it. I truly believe you can have that power over yourself. You just must want it bad enough. No Struggle, No Progress.

How is what you ask?

  • Get out of your comfort zone. Comfort does not get results. EVER
  • Face the fact that it will be difficult, but do you want change?
  • Understand it is your choice. When you indulge and then feel awful, you were defeated.
  • Set boundaries for yourself. Food boundaries and temptations.
  • Be proud of yourself.

“The best day of your life is the one on which you decide your life is your own. No apologies or excuses. No one to lean on, rely on, or blame. The gift is yours – it is an amazing journey – and you alone are responsible to the quality of it. This is the day your life really begins.” Bob Moawad

Let’s get back to those cookies I just devoured. They were sooooo GOOD. It’s been a month, maybe longer that I have eaten one. Today, my mother brought some over for my son and I wanted one (2) so I ate them. I have yet kicked myself in the glutes for this cheat. Why? Because I won’t do it again tomorrow or the next day or who knows when after that. Fortunately, I have self-control and self-discipline. I have not always and it has taken many years to get where I am.

Key thought:

The world is not running out of chocolate chip cookies or your favorite go to food. Why do you feel that you must consume significant quantities at one time? There is plenty to go around for another day. Pace yourself, you have a long life ahead of you, learn to savor and not to stuff.

Some solutions (or helpful tips) to maybe set you on the right track. When we spiral out of control, we can barely see straight. Anything and everything is headed in our mouth.

  1. Practice stress reduction. Exercise, in some way, will help this.
  2. Be mindful of your food choices. I continue to pound this in your head. Is it worth it and how will I feel afterwards?
  3. Keep health friendly foods and snacks in your fridge and pantry.
  4. Sleep well. Yes, it matters.
  5. Drink plenty of water. Know the difference between being thirsty versus being hungry.
  6. You get what you put into it!!! Do you really want results?

Friends, love yourself enough to maximize your potential, see results, control cravings, and strive for discipline.

YOU MUST GET OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE. It is only there will you find your best self. Your body will not go where your mind does not push it.

“Our destiny changes with our thoughts; we shall become what we wish to become, do what we wish to do, when our habitual thoughts correspond with our desires” – Orison Marden

That is a great quote.

Willpower is the ticket. Seek discipline and find your liberty (Frank Herbert). Discipline is ongoing. It is not done today and not tomorrow. Practice and strengthen your will to success.

Stop waiting on the perfect moment. It will never arrive. At no point in life will you find peace with everything that surrounds you. If you think you will wait for your circumstances to line up for you to begin that healthy lifestyle that you desire – You will never start.

Today is the day to begin holding yourself accountable for your body, mind, and health.

STRONG DISCIPLINE –

Mitzi

 

STRONG NUTRITION

Let’s make this short and sweet. We are back on nutrition. Why? Because no matter how often you discuss this, people still don’t get it. They come back with the same questions. Do you think my answer is going to change? It’s like being hungry and opening the fridge over and over again… nothing changed!

Teaching kindergarten for 15+ years has its advantages. I’m going to simplify this as much as I can for you.

I’m not even going to talk on “cheating on food” on this one. You can read that previous blog if you missed it. It’s definitely worth the read by the way.

Everyone is different. We know this. What works for me, may or may not work for you and vice versa. Find what works for you. This is not easy. You actually have to set in to motion a nutrition plan to see if it fits you. Talking about it has yet to work for you, maybe a more active approach would work.

Do you eat CRAP?

C – Carbonated drinks – Surely this needs no explanation. Let me not assume. Get off the soft drinks.

R – Refined sugars – Your deserts, cereals, ketchup, sauces, lattes, smoothies, etc. are full of it. To cure this, try to eat veggies in place of pasta, eat fresh fruit, make your own gravy and condiments, grill or broil (not fry), and avoid deserts (I totally get the frustration on this one).

A – Artificial Foods – Let us define this… IT IS NOT REAL. Enough said.

P – Processed Foods – This is any food that has been altered from its natural state in some way, either for safety or convenience. I think people get this confused with artificial foods many times. Processed may not necessarily mean unhealthy. It may just have added salt, sugar, or fat. Common foods are cereals, cheese, bread, milk, “convenient” food, and meat products (smoked, cured, salted, or added preservatives). Processed is also used to prolong shelf life.

That’s the basic CRAP of foods for you in a nut shell. It’s the reason you feel bad, you’re not losing weight, you can’t break that plateau, you struggle with “diet”, and you are in denial.

Some other things we need to discuss are sports drinks and the “trendy” word gluten. This is like my come back list. I have a quick story first and then I’ll go back. Squirrel.

So, my 9-year-old daughter, Elli and I are driving home from Baton Rouge today. She popped me with this statement, “mom, I feel uncomfortable getting dressed in front of my friends because I am bigger than them.” I almost wrecked. She is stocky for sure, but I wouldn’t say overweight. She hasn’t hit a growth spurt. There is nothing I can say at this moment that is going to cure this feeling. She then says, “I feel like people stare at my belly when I walk by.” I’m just listening, not letting a tear fall. How do I handle this conversation? First, I listened. Second, I tried explaining growth and how everyone’s body is different. Honestly, I was struggling for words that would comfort her emotions. If she is thinking it, it bothers her, but the positive is that she wasn’t afraid to talk to me about it. It was a lead in on why I do what I do and if I didn’t eat right and exercise what would happen to me.   She took comfort in the fact that I looked just like her when I was 9. It is a struggle for everyone involved. As her mom, it is my duty to not dismiss this conversation but to continue feeding her with tools to grow a healthy lifestyle. My number one concern is not to obliterate any self confidence that exist in this beautiful, spunky, sassy, energetic little person of mine.

My point to this…

younger than ever, your kids need to learn proper fuel for their little bodies. Your children’s health is in your hands.

Let’s focus back…

Sports drinks – The pros and cons of these popular drinks. There is no doubt they are beneficial. Anytime you are exerting energy for more than 2-3 hours, sweating a lot, those drinks will help replace lost electrolytes and give you a little boost of energy. For the average hike, 5k, or game of tennis, the extra sodium, calories, and sugar outweigh the benefits. The sodium will only make you thirstier. Do yourself a favor, drink water.

What is GLUTEN? If someone says they’re allergic to this, please ask them what it is. Can they tell you? This is so trendy right now. There are gluten allergies and they are legit. For some people, I’m not sure what they think their allergy is. Self-diagnosis does not count. Gluten is found in wheat, barley, rye, and oats. It gives elasticity to dough, helps it rise to keep its shape. Gluten is very complicated. It is not something that should be taken lightly. I will be the first to tell you, that taking gluten out of your diet (allergy or no allergy), you will feel so much better.

If you are intolerant of gluten, then beer is a no no. You already know this right? I say this because some people are not aware that beer is made of malted barley or wheat. It’s the truth. If you’re drinking that Michelob Ultra and claim to be gluten free, you may want to stick with wine or hard liquor. Just be mindful and know your allergies.

When is it your time to stop talking and start doing? It doesn’t have to be done all at one time just one step at a time. You are STRONG enough. There is no doubt in my mind.

“It’s not that some people have willpower and some people don’t, it’s that some people are ready to change and others are not.” Carl Sandburg

STRONG NUTRITION

Mitzi

STRONG BOUNDARIES

Strong Boundaries

Boundaries are what set the space between where you end and where other people or things begin.

I touched on boundaries briefly in my blog on STRONG Relationships. It’s tugging on me to dive a little deeper and hit it a little harder.

STRONG – When I began with those 6 letters and a triangle, it was doing it and see what happens. Over time, I became vested in my thoughts and the passion and love of those thoughts on paper. It has taken an ownership. Like anything new in life, it starts off scary and you’re not real sure how to feel about it. You set boundaries. How to run it? When to blog? What to blog? How to say it? Do I care what I say? First and foremost, my main purpose is to always be real and to put myself out there. Good, Bad or Ugly!!! My point – I am choosing to let go of my boundaries when I write, so you can get to know “me”. I think that’s only fair. I struggle in all areas of life just like the next person. What would be extremely easy would be to hide behind this screen and tell you what I think you want to hear. What fun is that?

Balancing boundaries so that they are not too weak or not too strong is the difficult part.

How is your life stacked up?

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We have one life to live. We are all given the opportunity to accomplish anything. What is your purpose in life? I ask this so often. It is so important to find your purpose, your peace, and your presence.

Your golf balls – List them.      

These are your most valued. Mine are my family, my faith, my health, my loyal friends, and my clients.

Your Rocks – List them.       

These get you through your life. Mine are my job, my home, my car, my fitness community, and my running shoes to name a few.

Your Sand – Too many to list and they are truly of little importance. This is where most people spend most of their time. What a shame? Worrying about the nonsense shit in life. Taking on everything of ill importance. Being involved in everyone else’s business but your own. Making other people’s lives miserable by inserting yourself in it when you should be more concerned on your golf balls. This is where your boundaries are most needed. The sand is the people, things, and chaos that if ended this very moment would not impact your life at all.

This is now how I set my boundaries with people. I literally think if she/he evaporates today would my life change? If I can answer that question with no, then I’m moving on. You are not worth my time or energy.

“MAY THE BRIDGES I BURN LIGHT THE WAY”      

It’s no secret that my personal life has had its share of talk in this town. It’s been a wild ride standing in my shoes hearing all of it. I have yet to hear one person discuss the truth. I have sat back and listened very attentively.   Again, I put myself out there on my blog STRONG CHOICES. I have learned the best retaliation is shoulders back and head high. When I consider the sources of those sitting at lunch discussing and cackling about my character, when you are the last people that can cast a stone, makes me stand taller. People, you never know who is sitting at a table next to you at lunch or who hears you ranting over a building being built inserting my name.   Hurtful? Absolutely. I then consider the sources. It’s not worth it. If people enjoy self-gratification by undermining others with gossip and lies, so be it. It overwhelms me that there are so little boundaries to relationships.   A boundary will give you freedom from negative people and enlighten you with positive energy. It just feels so damn good to be in control.   People will drag you through the mud without those cut off points, and you will allow it. Don’t you know I wanted to sink my toes in that sand, call each one of those ladies and say next time invite me to lunch and I’ll cackle with you about me.   I promise I would respect them a whole lot more. I didn’t.   I tell you all of this because some of you play in that sand day in and day out. It’s how we handle it that makes us different. Remember, if you put the sand in your jar first, your golf balls will never fit.

People lack boundaries because they have elevated levels of neediness. When you are needy, you have a desperate need to be accepted and loved by others. You sacrifice your identity and remove all boundaries. Here is my go to questions on setting limits with people. If you answer “yes” to most of these, you may want to reevaluate your boundaries (if you ever had them) …

Do you ever feel…

  • Taken advantage of?
  • Like you are constantly fixing people’s problems?
  • You’ve been sucked in to a pointless argument?
  • You’re invested in people for the wrong reasons?
  • You constantly defend yourself and your beliefs?
  • You get caught up in drama?

Now you’re thinking. Sand or golf balls?

The boundary on health and fitness from my perspective in my most respected expertise manner is this. The golf ball that carries the names of all my clients is a harder balance of boundaries than you would think.   These people come to me for guidance, goals, growth, and the truth. Each client is unique. It is my job and duty to learn each of them personally. Balancing boundaries with each one is a struggle but I strive daily to make sure they know I’m there just for them. Telling them what they want to hear would not be fair to anyone and how does that make me look? If there is no reprimand for eating bad or skipping workouts, I’m not doing my job. You don’t get to say you work out with me and not put in the work that is expected. We give and take. There is little room for compromise.   As a coach or “teacher”, these are my boundaries when I am working…

  • We can’t all be friends.
  • Communication provides strength and security.
  • We place value on trust, and expectations.
  • It’s a gift. We become responsible for ourselves and our bodies.

Do you have a golf ball for your health? How important is it to live a longer and more energized life? Your wellness needs boundaries and it’s not the boundary of a couch or computer. Get up and move. Find your purpose to live longer.

All our golf balls need boundaries in life. If you establish boundaries with the big stuff, the sands in life can’t get to you and you’ll have more time to have a beer with a loyal friend.

When I realized two years ago how setting boundaries would be so positive and life changing, I never looked back. There is nothing wrong with having a gate between you and the right people in life. I trust few. I love all. Kindness goes a long way. Acquaintances will come and go. They won’t call or visit when something is wrong. They won’t take the initiative to reach out. They will talk it to others but never have the heart to talk to you. Friends are loyal. If you have those, you are extremely lucky, hold on to them tight. They are your diamonds. Tell them how thankful you are for them.

A person with STRONG BOUNDARIES understands that they may hurt someone’s feelings sometimes, but ultimately, a person can’t determine how the other person feels.

STRONG – M

 

STRONG CHEATS

Isn’t that the truth for most of us?

If I could eat a chocolate chip cookie every day, I promise I would, but I can’t. Mentally, physically, emotionally, I can’t. I couldn’t eat just one. I know this about myself.

Today, I was planning on discussing STRONG quotes or images that people share or stick on their fridge or bathroom mirror, but I had a change of heart. After last night, I decided to talk about / discuss / share my thoughts on cheat meals and how to recover from them. You say, “what do you mean recover?” It’s just that, you do it and then get back on track. I see people make a cheat meal in to a cheat day or a cheat weekend. I’m like NOOOOOOO – STOP!!!! The weekend is not an excuse to cheat on your diet and undo all your hard work from the week. It’s like Saturday and Sunday = no need to care. Since when is your nutrition not valid on those 2 days? Once you take your gloves off, you’ve lost the fight. You went into I don’t care mode. The fight of good and evil is lost.

Listen, with nutritional cheating or not cheating decisions, prepare yourself for the most ridicule of your life. When you say “no” to an adult beverage or anything not healthy at an event, people make fun of you. I’m not sure why that this continues to happen.   Not one person thinks that it’s normal. They would rather squirt you with the barbecue sauce than just let it go.

I’m on Day 21 of Whole 30, not that it would even matter in any case but… I went with a friend to a fundraiser event last night. Saying “no thank you” to anything that I could not eat or drink was like being thrown in the lion’s den. The next time I am at a social event of this nature, the more appropriate response that I will use is, “I’m a recovering alcohol” or “I’m pregnant”. People seem to let those two statements be left unquestionable. They don’t seem to be near as condescending of the fact that we just eat healthy. Yes, if I would not have been on Whole 30, I would have continued to monitor my food intake, but would have enjoyed a big ole glass of wine.

Cheating on your diet or nutrition is like anything else. It is a lack of will power, want, understanding, and a desire to change. Why do you want to continue to say, “I’ll start over tomorrow?” What exactly are you accomplishing?

 

A friend told me this morning, “I like it when I have been eating healthy for a while and then eat poorly. It really makes me feel sick, but I like it because I realize how much the bad food really affects you.”

I don’t think anyone begins their day with… Dear Diet, Things just aren’t working out between us so I’m quitting.

I think most people have good intentions of staying with it and getting results but you don’t follow through because you don’t have a game plan.

I’m just as human as you. I love pizza. I love wine. I love homemade desserts. I love chips and dip. Those 4 things would kill me if I allowed it. Yes, they do come in my life every now and then and in moderation. It’s perfectly okay to have treats occasionally, but make it a choice not a cheat! When it becomes your choice and you are mindful of what you’re about to put in your mouth, it then becomes mind over matter. CONTROL.

These are my 5 personnel rules for a cheat / choice meal:

  • NO GUILT – Enjoy every bite. Savor it. If you have guilt, it’s not worth it. You have missed the point or maybe you didn’t need that choice.
  • PLAN IT – You should have an idea when you will cheat. An upcoming party, ceremony, celebration, or just because you feel like you earned it are all positive reasons.
  • PORTION CONTROL – I say this because indulging should not be a license to binge.
  • SET LIMITS – Once a week or something controllable that you feel you can get back on track quickly.
  • MOVE ON – You’ve done it. You loved every second. It was delicious, now back on track.

 

These 5 rules for me keep me grounded. They keep me from over eating and guilt free the next morning. Keeping in mind, when you cheat, the only person that loses is you. How often you cheat, how much you consume, and how limited your self-control is plays a key part in staying in the fight.

To flip the scoreboard, I will also enlighten you on the 5 reasons I choose not to cheat:

  1. Cheat meals make me crave more cheat meals. I’m scared to lose control.
  2. I hate the bloat and feeling of fullness the next morning. My stomach is a mess. UGH!
  3. Does breaking from my strict diet to enjoy a cookie make me a cheater? Why does it have to be so negative? Can’t I just have a cookie? Sometimes the negative thoughts over run what is a positive in my diet. Again, all about my mind – is it worth it?
  4. Honestly, sometimes I don’t cheat to be a role model for others and my children.
  5. To prove to myself that I can say “no”. It’s a game I continue to play with myself. There have been times that I have craved a certain food, but fought it off just win against myself. Yes, it’s an illness. Whatever it takes, right?

 

I feel the need to insert a little soap box about kids here. This is my squirrel mode, as my best friend says when I switch randomly from one subject to another. The biggest reason I cheat or don’t cheat is my kids. Teaching them the importance of healthy living is monumental to me.

I see adults changing their eating patterns, cooking separate meals for themselves, and exercising all while having overweight children. Quick meals for them, gourmet meals for you. I said it. It’s my blog, I can.

Why are there no guidelines for your children, yet you have them for you? Are they less important? Just because your kiddo is itty bitty at 8 years old, doesn’t mean they will be at 13 years old.   Don’t get me wrong, my kids get Happy Meals, soft drinks, pizza, and junk as well. I’m not dismissing that. I have one child that is rail thin and would live off brownies and Totino’s pizza if I allowed him. I also have a filled out, solid little girl who would live off almond butter, pretzels, and sour patch kids if I allowed that. Where’s the balance? We as parents must set nutritional guidelines for our children. If it is just to give them a healthy path of dietary knowledge for their future. My last 2 cents, get them moving with you. I promise they can do those squats and push-ups just like you.

Leaving you with this, your desire to change must be greater than your desire to stay the same. That’s the truth.

Find balance in your cheat meals and snacks. This will be your success story. You will find a happier more confident you.

Cheat STRONG… Mitzi

 

STRONG RESPECT

“Heal yourself, find yourself, know yourself, correct yourself, see yourself, love yourself, be yourself, RESPECT yourself.”

You’ve heard it, “you have to respect yourself before others will respect you.” This is so difficult for many of us. One reason lies in the fact of we just don’t know how. Another reason is we find ourselves in a situation that by the time we realize someone has disrespected us, it’s too late.

We struggle with these insecurities because we compare our lives to those around us. Those that put their lives on social media and are perfect at face value. Just because it’s on Facebook, it must be true, Right? That makes me laugh out loud. Sadly, people do believe this. Let me be the first to say, you have no idea what goes on behind that computer screen.

Respect means not taking things for granted. We tend to do this with those that we are closest to. Your mind went straight to your spouse and kids – you skipped right over yourself. You live in your skin day to day and forget you the most.

Honestly, I didn’t learn to respect myself until I began to learn myself through proper nutrition and exercise. This, for me, was a turning point in my life. When I became important enough to take care of my health, I began to value who I was, how I was treated, and my outlook on life much better. I cared enough to love me. When you love and respect who you are, the rest of the world kind of falls in to place.

Respect is also earned, not given freely. This means within ourselves as well. I think it is so ironic when people that treat you like crap get offended when you finally begin treating them the same way. You become the bad person at this point. You can’t win, don’t try. Respect their opinion of you, set boundaries, and walk away.

Relationships should be about two things: first, appreciating the similarities, and second, respecting the differences.

Let me reflect on my favorite pastime, running. When I began calling myself a runner in 2001, I had no clue about this sport. I was a member at the Courtyard Health and Racquet Club. They decided to form a run group that would meet twice a week and everyone went various distances. I remember running that first mile without stopping and then 3 miles and then 4. What a great feeling and accomplishment. And then, I was talked into signing up for the Mardi Gras Marathon in NOLA. During training, I messed up my IT band. It was a bitch training with that injury. My philosophy was if I’ve come this far, I am not going to quit. I went to that race, and finished 26.2 miles limping and hurting. I beat Oprah’s marathon time that day. That was my goal. My IT problem didn’t go away with that feeling of excitement crossing the finish line. I was in physical therapy for 3 months with no running. This was the price I paid for not only not respecting my body but also not respecting the distance of that course. I learned a valuable lesson that day, the hard way! I run injury free today. I respect every step that I take.

It’s simple, no matter what it is in life, it can be ripped from you in a matter of seconds.

Find peace, love and respect in everything you have, everything you do, and everyone you care for. Life is too short.

Stick with the Golden Rule, “Treat others as you would like to be treated.”

“I have learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” MAYA ANGELOU

STRONG SUPPORT

As strong as you think you are – as far as your pride will carry you – you can’t always do it alone. And you don’t have to! Someone that loves you, constructively criticizes you, respects you, and tells you the truth will help you push past the point of giving up.

“I love to see a young girl go out and grab the world by the lapels. Life’s a bitch. You’ve got to go out and kick ass.” Maya Angelou

You’ve tried it; changing your eating habits, buying healthier grocery items, or packing your lunch for work. Where do you end up?   It was exciting for a while but you got tired of meal planning and prepping. The rest of your family wouldn’t eat what you were cooking so it was easier for you to resort back to what they eat. That lunch you packed for work was good enough until your co-worker talked you in to getting out the office and head to the local hot spot instead. You are back to square one. The battle cannot be won if you are not surrounded by like-minded people. I’m not saying everyone must think like you but I am saying you need a “go to” person who respects your health goals.

Same thing with exercise. It was a great idea to get that gym membership, but you only used it for a week because you never felt comfortable. You signed up for a 30 day online fitness bootcamp, but you kept missing days and having to start over from day one. You ordered P90X and it was kickass at first but laundry, ringing phone, text messages, dinner, kids, etc. kept distracting you. Where is your accountability? Where is your support system?

To find a staunch support system, you must communicate your needs with others. It takes work.

First, explain your goals, health needs, and journey to get there with your spouse or significant other. They may have been on your same wave but afraid to approach you, but maybe not. If not, you can’t lose sight of your what and why. Just ask them to support you and inform them of the importance this decision is for you and please respect it. Give it time, they may conform as well.

Find an accountable friend to encourage and help you stay on track. There is nothing like the fear of letting someone down. If your friend expects you to meet them at the gym or the track, you will be there.

Find your cheerleader. I never dreamed I would say this, but if social media drives you… USE IT. Just please don’t value your worth with it. If you need people to say, “Good Job” or “Keep it up” or “You’re looking great” or “Your efforts motivate me”, then more power to you. GET IT!   If it keeps you working out tomorrow, then post that shit and look forward to tomorrows workout.

Connect with others who are focused on improving their health in the same way you are. If you want to lose weight and your friend wants to bulk up, you are probably not going to enjoy going to the gym with them or having dinner. It doesn’t have to be someone you knew previously. It could be someone you met in a fitness class and the gym is your common. That’s ok too. You don’t have to be besties with everyone. You just need that quick text from someone that says, “you coming to class today? I need a good ass kicking workout after my day of work. Need me to save you a spot?”   You’ll be less apt to skip the gym that day.

Common sense goals. It’s just that simple. Eat right and exercise with others. Make the most of your efforts and have fun.

In my life, I have two incredible workout partners. These girls are my heartbeat in the gym, on a bike, on the pavement, in the kitchen, and in my fitness life in general. I could not make some days without them. There is not a day that goes by that we do not share our goals, our workouts, our nutrition, what we ate or will eat, and what time we will meet on the weekends. The three of us have a respect for accountability.   Kathryn and Jennifer are straight up legit. There is no doubt if one of us says, “I think I’m going to train for a marathon”, the other two will say, “Cool, I’ll train with you.”   Don’t let our friendship fool you, we are ruthless as well. We will drop one another on a run. We toe the line at every race with a win in mind against the other two. We workout harder and push limits at all WODS in 3. 2. 1. At the end of the day, we are better today than we were yesterday and ready for tomorrow. Katty and Jenn, I love your passion, drive, constant motivation and STRONG SUPPORT.

My strongest support comes from home. My hubs has never stepped in the way of me and my eager, hard-headed, rampant, addictive, love for living a healthy lifestyle. He will be the first to tell you that I am hell to live with when I miss a day. Kuddos for his patience and love, I am appreciative. I can’t forget my kids. They watch! They learn! They mimic! That is so important to me. How else do you teach but by example?

You enjoy exercise more when it’s a partner or maybe even a personal trainer. You can disassociate boredom with fun. Not to mention, it makes the time go by faster.

Strength comes in numbers.

The Group Effort – I love my large groups. They complain. They curse. They work hard. They feed off each other. They constantly push one another. We are social animals. We seek company and positive reinforcement of others, especially when we do work. Fitness is work.

One on One – Having one on ones have advantages as well. I am an appointment. You will be pushed just as much and expectations are no less. I’m never afraid to sweat with a client. If it takes me doing your programming alongside you – LET’s DO IT!

The Dynamic Duos – The friends that want to work out together or the married couples who use it as together time. This is a buddy system. They respect one another’s time, goals, and they stay in touch. It’s a win win.

No matter where you fit in, find your support. Be that insurance policy for someone (and yourself). Your path can be a light for someone else.

“Whenever I feel weak, I’ll remember those who make me strong. And whenever I start to doubt myself, I’ll remember those who believe in me.”

BE THAT PERSON

STRONG – Mitzi

STRONG FAITH

Hope is the ability to hear the melody of the future. Faith is the courage to dance to it today.

You can’t do it. You’re not good enough. Why should you try? You’ll never make it.

This voice that taunts your every goal in life. Your voice! You constantly talk to that person daily; in the mirror, in the car, at your desk, in a group of people, standing in line, etc. That voice can slap you harder than any other and you allow it.

“When you doubt your power, you give power to your doubt.” Honore de Balzac

Faith is not something instilled. You must work toward it. It’s not a feeling, it’s a choice. I say this to people all the time. You cannot live on faith alone. It is a work in progress. You can have faith in everything but until you put forth the effort will you find change. Learning how to recognize your self-doubt is crucial. When you say, “I can’t”, “I won’t”, or “I don’t know”, try replacing that phrase with “I’m going to try.”

I’m not saying self-doubt goes away but I am saying that you can learn to deal with it positively. Why doesn’t it ever go away? One reason is because you do not allow it. A second reason is because people will always try to bring you down. It’s like poison in your veins. Here’s the kicker, you let them. Stop allowing others to steal your thunder. Make your statement, not your memo.

Give yourself the path to try and triumph. I promise you can’t go wrong. You must have enough faith to risk whatever it is that you have your sights on.   If not, it is just one more day of a missed opportunity. There is not enough room in your mind for both worry and faith. You must decide which one will live there.

Personally, I didn’t have the faith that I would succeed as a personal trainer. Everyone else thought I did, not me! I worried about what people would think, if I was good enough, would people trust me, could I push people beyond their limits to change them, would they have faith in me? Until I stopped worrying how it was going to happen and started believing that it would happen, my feet were planted. It was the day, I had enough faith in myself to shut the door to a classroom that was my comfort zone for more than 14 years and JUMP.

“If you are human, you have struggled with belief.” Paul Carrick Brunson

To believe or have faith in yourself you must…

  • Guard your heart. Do not lose this part of yourself. Everyone does not need access to it.
  • Disassociate yourself with the crap on social media, gossip, or negativity and replace with inspiration.
  • Find your purpose and go after it.
  • Train yourself to boost your own self-worth.
  • Allow the word “NO” to positively influence you. It does not mean to give up but should drive your faith a little more.
  • Accept a compliment. Just say Thank You.
  • “Fake it till you make it”. One of my favorite quotes ever. Even if you don’t believe in yourself, own it, work the room, work a conversation, be assertive, and be confident. You can breathe later.
  • Never surrender. No one has ever fallen while leaping out on faith.

I am writing a blog. I had the encouragement and faith of others (yet again) that it would work, not in myself. That voice in my head is conniving, manipulative, and can be a real bitch. Pen to paper is all I had to do. Say it, tell the world, help others, give them your story, show them how intimate you are with your passion for fitness and life they said.

Where was my faith in myself? January 2017, my faith became STRONG.

 

STRONG FEAR

Fear – This is people’s do or don’t word in life. Fear is a safety net in your world, like a security blanket. As long as you live in fear of the unknown, you will not change but choose to stay the same.

“You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You must do the thing which you think you cannot do.” Eleanor Roosevelt

But I’m scared! But it makes me nervous! But I can’t! How many times have you said this? The fear of failure is what stops us! That is our #1 fear… Failure.

We are horrified to fail as a spouse, a parent, an employee, a friend, or a volunteer. These are all things that directly affect other people. These things are the fears of letting others down. One person being pulled in all directions trying to please all circles of their being. This type of fear is what I like to call people pleasers.

I don’t believe in failure. It is a stepping stone to your fate. There are set backs in life but not trying is actually your failure.

My fear is gaining weight.

Yep, I said it.

The scales own me every day. Do I know it is wrong? Yes! Would I ever tell any of you to give a damn what a scale says? No. It scares the shit out of me. For so long, I was up and down with my weight. It is now under control but I’m a little obsessed with making sure it doesn’t creep back up. Being a personal trainer, you have to look the part. Who wants a trainer that doesn’t put in the work, walk the walk, or talk the talk? It is important to me. There is a pound range I allow myself for the scales, depending on time of month, too much sodium, that splurge weekend, or whatever. Stay between the beacon. I work my ass off to stay there. It is no easy task for me by any means. I love to sweat and I’m really good at it. Sweating with swagger is the name of the game. This is not a healthy fear but it is mine and it is real. The boxing gloves go on every time I turn that little square digital machine on.   It can make or break my mood, my wardrobe, my self-worth, and my confidence. I allow that. Boy, is that shameful?   It’s my fight. It will not defeat me.

I also fear waking up one day and not wanting to run or workout. Those days happen for me too, believe it or not. Those are the days I make sure it gets done. One day could turn in to two and so on, don’t ever let it be today!

What is your fear?

Will you face it?

How will you conquer it?

“Courage doesn’t always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying, I will try again tomorrow.” Lion, Wizard of Oz

You’re a coward. You let crap beat you down and you don’t fight to get up. You use this in employment, marriages, friendships, children, health and fitness, etc.

Employment – You hate your job. Change it! Don’t’ be afraid of doing something you love.

Marriage – You feel alone, co-existing under one roof. You constantly feel as though you don’t belong. You’ve been beaten, kicked, belittled enough that you don’t know how to stand up for yourself. Find you, and find some happy. Don’t be afraid to seek help, share with a friend, seek higher ground or learn to communicate with your significant other. Talk it out is the best advice I can give.

Friendships – Stop being rattled by the chains of others. Search your friend circle. I promise you half of them are so self-absorbed they don’t give two shits about you. Your life will go on and you’ll be better without them. Trust me on this one.

Parenting – You cannot parent from the couch. GET OFF YOUR ASS. You must be involved with your children, not afraid to piss them off. You children are not your friend. There may be a time in life when they can be, but now is the time to rear them not treat them as an equal. Exactly what are you fears with them? The fact that they get mad at you, throw a fit, slam the door, roll their eyes, disagree… The last time I checked I own this house. They are renting space. My rules, they learn a little word called respect.

Health and Fitness – Intimidation is the word not fear. To take that first step, getting out the door, or cleaning out that pantry is huge. We are in a world that is so innovative in the fitness world. There should be no excuses. Your options are limitless. Good nutrition is a click away. There are so many websites that not only let you choose your dietary option, and recipes but will also make your grocery list as well. Check out www.realplans.com.   People, these two words are like a life insurance policy. I tell my clients this. You are paying to prolong your life. It’s worth it. Another word I could possibly use is lazy. We want others to do it for us. I will be glad to do it for you, but I can only start you. Take a moment to look at your day. How often are you just sitting, playing on social media, or a game on your phone? Use that 10-15-20 minutes to move. You can walk the parking lot, climb the stairwell, do lunges down the hall with pushups and squats. Will people think your nuts? Yes, WHO CARES! They should join you and maybe one day they will… Congrats, you’ve just changed a life. I can get creative if you need me to, just ask! I will travel, for real. Get a group of friends together and I’ll be glad to come over. I drink Chardonnay and love a great wine glass. Cleaning out those pantries and refrigerators when you aren’t even sure about what is good or bad for you can be overwhelming. Grocery shopping for “healthy foods” is tricky if you don’t understand labels, ingredients, or basic shopping rule of thumb.

Stop fearing and start being curious. ASK! We don’t seem to fear what happens when we over eat or over drink. What people fear is giving up feeling empowered by the taste and the feeling that food gives them. It should be completely opposite. Learn to love you again. I promise it takes the place of all the above. Finding your best self is the key to joy.

“You gotta get it right, while you got the time, cause when you close your heart, then you close your mind.” Michael Jackson

Look, I wish I could tell you what to do but until you decide that you can, you won’t. It seems impossible until you just do it.

MAKE THAT CHANGE

STRONG… Mitzi

 

STRONG CHOICES

STRONG CHOICES

Your day belongs to another person’s dream.

Your choices inspire you to become more than what you were when you began.

Choices is your ability to turn inspiration into action.

What? Why? How?

This word is full of potential. It’s an action we teach our children at a very young age. Your choice is your consequence. Think about that for a second.

Your choices have brought you to this place in your life. If given the opportunity, would you do it all over again?

It was 1992. I was a student at Northwestern State, Natchitoches La. I was loving life and living the college dream. No worries in the world. I had it all, but wanted more. I’ve always been that girl. Mediocre is just not good enough for me. December, Christmas break, I moved back home for a 3 week holiday. Sunday afternoon mom and I loaded my car. The conversation I will never forget (neither will she). She says “be careful going back to Natchitoches”. My response, “I’m not going back to Natchitoches mom, I’m headed to Thibodaux, La. I transferred to Nicholls State.” The sadness in her face of my choice still leaves and impression on me today. Many of you may have crossed a path such as this in your lifetime. There was no turning back. This girl was about to make a new life for herself. My destiny was unknown. I drove off that day into a world that I was completely unaware of. Little did I know, it would be one of the best choices / decisions of my life.  An impromptu step that allowed me to get to know myself.

Joy is important. You will fall apart without it. Learn where you find joy. When your feet hit the ground in the morning, take control of your day. I have preached and preached about how strong your mind can be. It’s your choice!

Decision making at its best. You should have a plan. What’s your method of achieving it? Do you need to reevaluate? Benchmark your actions. Change your game plan when necessary.   Most of all fall in love with the journey, not the end result. I say this because too many people are searching for an end and lose sight of how they are getting there. Take note of how you get to where you going.

How do you make the correct choices? Well, I don’t know. I’m still a work in progress. The positive is that our mistakes mold us. You wouldn’t be who you are without them. When you don’t thoroughly think things through you make avoidable mistakes.

Go back to the Steve Harvey video I posted on “Jump”. Talk about some choices!!! Do I or do I not jump? Sometimes you must think, what do I have to lose and what do I have to gain? Is it worth the risk? Is bettering yourself whether it be job, happiness, health, nutrition, friends, or opportunity important enough to change your commitment to yourself.

Your body is a reflection of your self-worth and your choices. My apologies for hurting anyone’s feelings but the truth hurts. The phone calls, text, emails, office visits, or random chats in the grocery about nutrition are countless. I do not sugar coat much about my thoughts on this subject. Many of you don’t like what I have to say and completely dismiss our conversation. That is your choice to listen or to avoid. I can help you or you can keep doing what you’re doing, and continue with your same results. I am so sorry there is no quick fix to our nutrition needs. If there was some magic pill or potion, I promise I would have found it. It is your choice to follow the path you’re on or switch directions at any time.

Scrolling through social media sights could be the most relevant sight of how delusional people truly are. There is a plethora of healthy recipes, people’s menu for the week, humble bragging of weight loss or inches lost, new cleanses, success stories, complaints of what works and what doesn’t, blah blah blah. This is what we often refer to as “keyboard courage”. It is so easy to stay in a judgment free zone behind the computer. “No one will know I’m eating this chocolate bar and drinking a coke as I pin healthy menu items to my Pinterest boards”.   The actions you take to feel worthy. But did you get a “like” or a comment for your post? That seems to be what matters most.   Here is your kick in the ass for today, YOU ARE NOT INVISABLE.   You think I am ignorant to those of you who drive through the fast food restaurant or bakery before heading home to shove that last bite of junk in to your system before going to make that healthy meal for your family. Your husband can brag on how well you’re doing with your new diet plan. That makes you feel good. I’ve done it, I know. Here is your second kick in the ass for the day, LIES LIES LIES! If you want it, own it. Make the best choice for that one body you have. You can lie about everything else except your health journey!  Fear is your excuse!  I get it!  Don’t be afraid to do something that frightens you, such as love, changing careers, cleaning out your pantry or signing up for a marathon.

Regret is a heavier weight to carry than hard work.

When someone asks for my advice on nutrition, I ask for a 2-3 day break down of every morsel that goes in their mouth. It is then and only then that you see the mindless eating that you do throughout the day. “I don’t know why I can’t lose weight. I eat eggs for breakfast, a salad for lunch and a smoothie for supper.” Well first, you’re starving yourself.   Second, you failed to mention the sugar and cream in your coffee, ranch dressing, amount of cheese on salad, hand full of M&M’s, tootsie rolls, bite of cookie, latte, and scraps from your kid’s plates that you finished along with those 3 meals. You are smarter than this people. YOU JUST DON’T WANT IT BAD ENOUGH. That’s your choice not mine.

Exercise regimens are the same way. I hear people say, “I go to the gym for 30 minutes to an hour 4 days a week. I am not getting results.” It’s because you’re not working hard enough. Stop playing with your music, texting, talking, sitting on a machine, walking around, or gazing in to space and work. Start super setting, burning some calories, breathing hard, and working out. The truth is I see so much wasted time in the gym from members. Utilize your time, or hire a personal trainer to give you a routine or to train you even if it’s just short term. You will learn how to make the most of your time in the gym and get results.

Struggles are real. Choices are real. Your path to success is your story.

You are only getting older and every day is a missed opportunity of change if you don’t decide your fate.

It takes STRONG emotion to overcome STRONG temptation.

You choose.

Mitzi

STRONG ATTITUDE

“Ability is what you’re capable of. Motivation determines what you do. Attitude determines how well you do it.” Lou Holtz

First impressions are hard to take back. You can give off a vibe of self-worth and confidence or you can oppose that with insecurity and timidity. Where are you?

When your feet hit the ground every morning, you decide how to conquer your day. Your attitude!

We allow others to control our attitude. It’s a choice. Yes, it is.

How well do you have control over your emotions that you do not allow other people’s words and actions to affect you?

This is spouse, children, friends, co-workers, a car that cuts you off, a text, an email, etc.

I know there are many mornings my daughter makes me crazy. We have argued over hair, clothes, leggings, shoes, food, and the list goes on. It can make me lose my mind. Why did I allow her to aggravate me? I am the mother here let’s not forget. My choice. I did not handle the situation as I should have.

Let’s talk about your attitude towards a better you! Excuses reflect your attitude. One of the most important steps you can take toward achieving your greatest potential in life is to learn to control your attitude and the way it impacts your well-being. It’s your mind. It’s your choice. Your self-critic is powerful.

Your health and nutrition reflects your attitude. When you encounter hard times, you self-sabotage these two things. Some of you grab junk food, others a bottle of wine, some just sit in self-pity. Why? Instead of doing something positive for yourself, like going to the gym, or for a walk, or somewhere to clear your head, you choose to have a negative attitude and waller in self-defeat. Why would anyone choose to do this? It is how you choose to respond that is key to changing how you view any circumstance.

“Our attitude towards life determines life’s attitude towards us.” John Mitchell

In my life…

The last few months have been rocky. Poor choices on my part have caused a strain in many relationships of mine, from spouse to friends to work environment.   With this comes ridicule, judgement, indifferences, gossip, and heartache. Someone even called me insecure. That is one word I laugh at. If there is one attribute that I do not possess, it is insecurity.   The world and community can be a cruel place.

I dove in to self-pity for about 24 hours. My thoughts everywhere. Nothing was clear. What was I doing? How was I spiraling? How was I coming out of this? The phone rang. It was one of my best girlfriends. That true friend that never holds words back. I pray you all have a Kathryn in your life. Her words to me were “Who are you right now? I have never seen you weak. You are not the person I know. Get up and do something about this. You are stronger than this.”

Did I need to hear that? This tiger woke up. My attitude immediately changed. It was time to hold my head high, tackle this situation head on, allow people to judge and talk without it causing stress in my life. My choice! The loudest and most influential voice is yours.

No one controls you. That’s all on you.

People’s perception of you comes from your affirmation of yourself.

I ask you two questions. What motivates you? What triggers you? When you find this, you find how to take action, proper action. A discovery that takes your attitude to a brighter, more optimistic place. I like to say, “your confidence hangs in your closet”. Men and women, get dressed, get out, hold those shoulders back, lift that chin and take on the world.

Humor. Laugh. It truly is the best medicine. It will change your attitude completely. Find the humor in all aspects of life, it is powerful.

Exercise. It just makes you feel good. Let’s be honest, throwing a little weight around is exhilarating. With this is nutrition, that tub of ice cream, sleeve of cookies, whole pizza, or alcohol is not fixing your attitude.

I say to you – greet people with a smile, with enthusiasm, and as my dear friend Lycia reminds me, always be GOOD, GRACIOUS, and KIND.

Go Get ‘em Tiger…

STRONG