As I am running this hot, humid Sunday morning, I notice the holiday decorations going up.  Some homes already lit, others decorating the lawn early this morn, trimming the house with lights, hauling things from the attic, and doing their obligatory duties of spraying Christmas joy throughout their home.


Because you’re supposed to, right?

Well, I did too.  I came home and put up the tree, decorated the mantle, put the nativity scenes out, spruced up the foyer, hung the stockings and placed the wreath upon the door.


Because I’m supposed to, right?

Black Friday…  Cyber Monday…  BUY BUY BUY…


Because you’re supposed to, right?

Well, I didn’t do that.

Family calling, “when are you coming?”, “what are you bringing?”, “what do you want for Christmas?”

My brother bought a new house in Lake Charles a few months ago, he asked everyone to come there for Christmas.  I said, no.  I got a little flack from that.  He has no young children, I do.  I am not dragging my kids everywhere on Christmas day.  I’m just not doing it and I don’t feel obligated to do so.

Let’s be honest, some of these people you don’t want to see nor speak to.  Some of these people you don’t even acknowledge on a birthday and now you are expected to buy them a Christmas gift.  All in while you are thinking, I could spend that money on myself or my kids.

I’m there too.  I promise.  I feel like it’s all a big obligation sometimes.  It’s almost like, call me on a random week day to go to lunch or send a text out of the blue, that’s special.  Having anxiety about being everywhere in 2 days, is not worth it.

When does it stop?

As all this is running through my head, I’m thinking why don’t they put this much effort in their health?

They aren’t complaining of their back or knees or hips hurting climbing in and out of that attic or going up and down that ladder.

Let’s talk about obligations:

The obligation of your health.

We get so wrapped up in seasons.  Decorating, buying, cooking, and making everyone else happy…  Where are you in your obligations?

When do you get time to put yourself first?  When do your excuses end?

Each day is a day farther and farther away from the person you are longing to become.   Your quality of sleep, your diet, your physical activity all plays a huge role in your mental game.

“you only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough.”  Mae West

Ask yourself:

what is my fear?

What is stopping me from my potential?

Why do I need to feel in control, when I’m really out of control?

Do I benefit from being the “yes” person?

Why do toxic people attract me?

How much time do I waste?

How can I change?

Be honest with your answers…

And now answer this,

Who could I become?

That, my friend, is your answer to your happy and your joy every season, 365 days a year.

At some point you will die, did you enrich your life and create a legacy?

Small steps can become really big steps.  Please, just take a step.

I am leading a 21 Day Challenge.  21 days of 12,000 steps each day.  That is about 6 miles a day.  It begins on Dec 1.  Join me If you’d like, it’s a great way to get through the holiday season and into the new year with a healthier lifestyle.  A challenge would not be a challenge if it were easy.

“Voice your ideas, don’t be afraid to fail, and certainly don’t be afraid to succeed.”  Zdravko





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